CLUES TO SUSPECTING A PRETENDING LOVER

CLUES TO SUSPECTING A PRETENDING LOVER

- Odunayo Ogunmodede

1. HE IS PLEASED WITH EVERYTHING YOU DO: A pretending lover would never bother to question any of your actions. Even if he sees you with another guy, he might pretend as if he doesn't see you, simply because he has no any serious plan for you. Therefore, querying any of your misbehaviours might be needless to him.

2. ASHAMED OF INTRODUCING YOU TO HIS RELATIVES: A pretending guy or lady might not be confident enough or willing to introduce you to his or her relatives. Why? Because he might have introduced someone else to them before, or planning to present another person in the nearest future. Therefore, since he has no any future plan for you, he would be so reluctant in presenting you to his family.

3. DISRESPECTS YOU PUBLICLY, APOLOGIZES PRIVATELY: This is common with some pretenders, they are ashamed of giving respect to their lovers openly, they would rather disgrace him or her, after which they would be apologizing behind a closed door for an offense they committed in a public place. You have to be careful with people of this character.

4. IGNORING MARITAL DISCUSSIONS: Some pretending partners are fond of deviating whenever issues of marital plans come up, this is not unconnected with the fact that they are not interested. Therefore, when you are dating anyone in this habit, you must be cautious before going too far.

5. PRIORITIZATION OF MONEY/TOO DEMANDING: If all what your fiance or fiancee want is money, then you have to be very vigilant. In order to put him to tests, you have to be pretending at times as if you are broke when you are actually not. With this, you might likely get his or her true colour. 

6. OVER REACT OVER EVERY LITTLE QUARREL: When a guy or lady always overreact over every little quarrel and threaten to quit almost all the time, then you have to apply more wisdom so that you won't be stranded in the pool of love. Misunderstandings are very normal in relationships, and it's expected of both lovers to settle them in love and amicably. Therefore, overreaction over almost every quarrel might be a way of trying to get an excuse to quit, and it might not, it could just be as a result of hot temper. But above all, be vigilant!

7. MAKE PROMISES THEY CAN'T FULFILL: Pretenders are fond of constant lies. They lie too much! They make sweet promises which they know they are incapable of fulfilling. If you notice that your fiance or fiancee is a passionate lier, please be careful, before it's too late! Courtship without honesty will produce nothing but frustrations and pains.

ALSO BE CAREFUL WHEN YOUR FIANCE OR FIANCEE IS;

1. TOO SECRETIVE: If he or she is too secretive, especially with his phones (Social media, emails, sms, e.t.c), maybe to the extent of passwording them without letting you know those passwords and never entering them for you to access the phones, there may be a suspicion of foul play. Try to approach him or her and find out the reason for his or her action. But it's important to note that wisdom is the principal thing in this situation.

2. STILL MAINTAINS CLOSE FRIENDSHIP WITH HIS OR HER EX: Remaining a very close friend to someone's ex-lover is highly risky. When you notice that your partner is still in tight contact with his former, make sure you do everything in your capacity to correct this anomaly, because it's a threat to your relationship.

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